Did I cause my own cancer? Ooh, I’m feeling some negative emotions about that!

Here’s a beautiful paragraph I stumbled upon in my research:

Healing cancer begins with healing your emotions. All cancer is caused by the suppression of, and the inability to let go of negative emotions including anger, hate, resentment and/or grief or guilt. These emotions create tremendous stress in the body that causes cancer over time.

That’s been my problem all along! Forget the chemo, the medication, the stem cell transplant. I’ve been wasting my time? I brought this on myself and now I need to get myself out of this mess.  Now that, in itself, is something to get stressed about!

Imagine what we might say at the funerals of loved ones who have died of cancer if we all believed that pap.   “Ah well, you did know that she would become very stressed sometimes. Well, see what happened to her. What can you expect when you act like that?”  or ” I heard that she used to get very stressed looking after her sick parents, her six kids and maintaining a full-time job. She brought it on herself.” or ” I knew when she yelled at me that time 10 years ago that justice would prevail. You see where it got her?”.

Apparently, the first step to healing according to this very deep website, is to look at your relationship with your mother.  Now we can blame our cancers on our mothers along with the shape of our noses and all of our neuroses. Actually, steps one to nine in the “Cancer Healing Guide” are all about your mother. Fathers only get four steps. Seems a bum rap to me.

I think it would be great to hear stories about things people say to cancer patients that are either bizarre or insensitive or downright toxic. Let’s milk these events for all they are worth!

(There, no one can accuse me of having repressed anger, although I am experiencing a fair bit of negative emotion after looking at the website)

Sam

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3 thoughts on “Did I cause my own cancer? Ooh, I’m feeling some negative emotions about that!

  1. es says:

    Hi, Sam.
    I liked this wing of discussion.
    It was not so obvious: I am still not 100% sure what was your position in regard to this “causing cancer to yourself” observation.
    Could we cause our cancer? I doubt it. There is no indication in the research that stress can cause cells’ mutations or even trigger the onset.
    However, our stress is us. We create this emotional context (bullion) of our lives. And when we have some illnesses or trauma, we can deeper imprint it in our bodies, if we do not integrate it, facilitate it, talk it out, or dance it out. Overall, I trust that our body is a container that holds our trauma and stress, which we create as a reaction to some events. I believe in the power of somatics: talking, movement, touch, and positive attitude.
    Elena

    • Hi Elena,

      Thanks for your comment. I guess my irony was a bit too veiled. Of course stress is not a healthy thing and we all have to work out our own ways of dealing with/relating to stress. But I was quite concerned about a philosophy that would make people feel like they had brought about their own illness. I had someone once tell my husband that I was sick because of unresolved emotional issues. How toxic is that? In the book done by the young people at the Cedars Cancer Institute in Montreal, one person’s entry consisted entirely of inappropriate and insensitive things people had said to her about her cancer. I thought this would be an interesting path to follow for some people in their creative expression.

  2. katie says:

    Oh Goodie! More reasons to feel guilty…

    (thanks for commenting on my blog, by the way. Love this project.

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